Women are Hatin' this Datin' Thing

You know what's sad? The saddest thing, is that this isn't anything new. It's nothing short of redundant, aside from the fact that dating has gotten progressively worse.

I've heard some women go as far as to say, "it's just gonna be me and my fur babies til the day I die, because I can't deal with dating these dudes anymore." "What will dating do, except make me grow grey hair, faster?"

We've come to a serious issue in the world today. Dating shouldn't be this difficult, but the truth is, I completely understand why! Self...ladies...fellas....self is the problem. Understand that one should have pride in themselves (as long as pride doesn't later become conceit), and be confident. Now, when selfish desires are so huge, that they remove the concern of the person one is interested in, and interest in their benefit as well, that's when pride becomes a problem. How many times has a man (or woman for that matter) said, "I want my person to be like.....," and you immediately planted this look on your face that says, "you've got to be kidding me?"

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Too many people enter a date with the intent to impose what their wishes are, with nearly little to no concern about what the other person wishes. Relationships are when the molding, or becoming one happens (marriage simply seals that off). Guess what (exclusive) dating is/does? It is where the two "workers" bring the parts to begin laying the foundation. If you come with the idea to take over the project, and control it, you're already on the wrong foot to begin with!

There is a serious level of curiosity missing from dating.

The interest level should be moderate to high. Questions should be bubbling at the tip of the tongue, but most people come with more answers to a date than questions. Sir...yeah, sir....it ain't all about you! Miss...yes you...um...it isn't all about you either! At this rate, it's easier for kids to see the real "Santa Clause" and give him an extra special, thank you hug, than for most adults to see a thriving romance in this lifetime. It is simply because, we're not acknowledging the worth of the other person, and applying enough effort to parallel the assumed interest in said individual. You know what else is easier than dating today? Willfully catching STDs that you cannot rid of, because the apparent admission to most people's romantic doorway, is a sexual encounter that ignites the loss of most people's common sense. Sadly from what I've heard, most men can't even do that right, and there are a number of women tagging right along wit' em!

So understanding all the insanity that seems to follow society's known dating scenario, how do we fix this? Human beings are too unnecessarily complex, and crazy for me to have the answer to this issue. But one thing I do know is, the answer could begin with self. We've got to change our character. You know, become strong, but nicer. Watch how we speak to others, and be respectful. Look at the other person as one of value, importance, and know that they have a story that is likely quite intriguing. Change you, and maybe...just maybe...we can change this dating thang...for the better.

I guess we'll see how this plays out, won't we?